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When asked in the It’s Just Lunch survey, “Would you go out on a date with someone whom you knew was unemployed?” one-third of women responded with a flat “No.” A larger percentage (42%) gave “Maybe” as an answer with the stipulation, “I wouldn’t want to throw a lot of time into it unless they had a game plan for getting back on track.” Men were asked the same question, and roughly two-thirds said they’d be up for dating someone who was unemployed: 19% said they had no reservations whatsoever about going out with a woman without a job, and another 46% said they’d date an unemployed women but were interested in finding out how they spent their time not working.Nonetheless, the dramatic differences in the responses of the sexes may lead some to the conclusion that, as Jezebel put it, “women are just a bunch of money-grubbing gold-diggers.” (MORE: Romance & Real Estate: How Your Housing Situation Affects Your Love Life) The Jezebel post disputes this claim, of course.A closer look at the numbers shows that, instead of being concerned mainly with a man’s wealth, women may just want to date men who are doing something with their lives.
So he’s not really organized and his work gets in the way of our spending time together.
The idea women are sending is that: A man who doesn’t have job and doesn’t have a solid plan to get one probably isn’t as desirable as a mate because he lacks ambition or intelligence or some other mysterious quality that we perceive as being necessary in our boyfriends. The Rise of Men’s Makeup) As much as the responses seem like they’re about money, they’re really about the qualities and values women want most in men, the thinking goes.
In addition to ambition and intelligence, being employed is also probably a sign of dependability—a guy who is able to show up for work on time should also be able to be punctual on dates and able to remember anniversaries and whatnot.
I don’t know if he really has time for a girlfriend or if he even cares about me.
I feel desperate and clingy.” If you, too, feel desperate and clingy, read 5 Signs You’re Emotionally Smothering Your Boyfriend (and How to Stop! There is no “one size fits all” answer that applies to every relationship.