It's a dating move so common the term has become common parlance. Deluding ourselves that we are being kind in being indirect? One man I talked to said that he feels like he is very clear with the women he dates but they don't always listen. "Why is there always another step that needs to be taken in the relationship? There is something primal in each of us that doesn't want to just be with a given situation.
Slash told me he's doing the slow fade one more time this week: "It's been four days since I contacted her - after having consistent contact during the entire 2 months…in the past four days her text messages, emails and voice mail messages are starting to add up." When I asked him why he wasn't responding he said, "It feels easier to just disappear." So are we cowards for pulling the slow fade? I talked to a friend who slept with his girlfriend's best friend and knew that if (when) she found out it would get messy so he ran off into the night.
What if someone told you that you're going to spend £1000 this year on total strangers. London has wonderful parks for picnics the most beautiful in my opinion being the campestral green that slopes majestically down to the boating lake in Regents Park. You're texting back and forth every hour and then...nothing. I turned to one friend, Slash (yes I have a friend named Slash), who admitted to pulling the disappearing act about 6 or 7 times in the past year alone."There's only so many times I can tell a woman I'm not available to date her before it gets into tricky territory," Greg said. ' because if so I will start doing that." One friend thought that there is a lot of pressure from women to find out where a relationship is going and that in turn puts undue pressure on a situation, causing men to freak out and run. For some people that means they try to run to the next step of a relationship; for others the very idea of that makes them run from the relationship entirely.I do want to point out that it's not just men that pull the slow fade; it is a move that transcends gender and sexual orientation.Going off the notion that we all want to run, is that the number one thing we want to run from is an uncomfortable situation: "the talk." It's awkward and uncomfortable and if we can run from that with a relatively clean conscience we will.